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One Year Down, Forever to Go!

Happy Anniversary Love! I can't believe it has been a whole year since we were married. I have looked back on who we were when we got married and who we have become and I love it. October 9, 2014 will always be my favorite day (and yes I know I will probably say that when I have children but...), because it was a start of a new adventure. It was a start of a new life and pathway in which I will always have my one and only by my side. Marriage. Wow, where do I even start? To be completely honest, this year has been such a blessing of continual learning, good and the bad arguments, and even happy and sad tears. No one ever told me about all of the emotions that marriage brings. They really should offer a class for this.
I have loved my husband since the first time he told me he loved me. Let's go down memory lane shall we? We were driving home from one of our date nights and Spencer was being nervously quiet. He would not let go of my hand and he would not let a word slip out. He just turned the music up loud. At first I was positive he was going to tell me that he wanted to move on (I mean come on, he was so quiet!) As he pulled up in my drive way he gave me that big smile, the one that makes me melt every time I see it. He slowly put both hands on my face and said these words, "Kacey Lee, you are the most beautiful, most amazingly funny and smart person I know. You mean so much to me, I have completely fallen for you. Kacey I love you!." I thought I loved him a lot then (this was in 2013), but this past year has proven to me that my love for him grows every day. I never knew my heart could be so full.
It may seem that on social media, I only post about the good things. I would be lying if I said we never fought. I learned early on in our marriage that disagreeing was normal and it needed to happen at times. We are not perfect, nor will we ever be, but I thank Heavenly Father everyday that I crossed pathways with Spencer. He has changed my life in so many ways and has taught me more than I thought I could learn. Heavenly Father knew I needed someone with a patient, tender soul to bless my life, and what better person than Spencer to fulfill that calling. It was not an easy adjustment for me to be married. We are so different in almost every aspect and to learn to see eye-to-eye on every little thing was probably the most difficult thing (and I am sure will continue to be a challenge). Before I got married I was really good at hiding my emotions, except to my parents. I only ever  (really) cried once in front of Spencer before we were married. Now I feel like I cry over the small things, like when I feel the spirit, when we have disagreements, when I hear my favorite song, when my husband does a kind action (like doing the dishes when I don't ask him to), and when I am in pain. It's weird, I know, but I guess it's easier to let out how I feel rather than keep it inside. Aside from all of the crazy adjustments we have had to make, our marriage has been wonderful.
We have been blessed continually throughout our marriage. We have made so many wonderful memories, ones that I will cherish forever. I remember the night our reception I was so nervous to start our new adventure. After running out the door and rushing up to our room for the night, and letting our minds finally relax, my sweet husband just held me and gave me the biggest hug ever saying, "I love you Mrs. Shiveley!" I know a year is nothing, but I still feel like I did at that moment in the hotel room, all giddy and full of butterflies EVERY time I see my husband. He seriously is the best ever! Even when we argue, I can't make it very long before I start laughing and run to kiss him. We are still in the "honeymoon phase" and are so SO in love,  I am sure for people looking into our marriage think we are crazy. I have loved getting to know Spencer on a whole new level since we have been married. I know many you of you know that we dated for two years before we were married. I was convinced that I knew him on every level. Boy was I wrong. We are probably immature, but I love us. I love how we can turn almost every bad situation into a good one. I love how we are willing to learn new things with each other. I love what our life has brought us and will continue to bring us.
Being married has given me the biggest confidence boost. I have never felt so sure of myself, of my thoughts, actions, and even looks. My husband makes me feel beautiful everyday, even in my worst hours of exhaustion. He reminds me all of the time of how I still impress him and make him the happiest man.
I could go on and on about how great this first year has been. As I have reflected what has happened, a huge smile came across my face. I thought I would share some memories of  the last year. (These are in no particular order, although I tried to make a good flow)
-San Francisco - Walked the Piers -Alcatraz -The Nobb Hill Chill -Small apartment, 8222 Allen St #10 - Weird neighbor who only wore black underwear around, with all the windows open -So much studying -Car problems costing about $2000 which we paid for ourselves -late nights -early nights -colds -The flu -awkward window in bathroom -moldy ceiling -new jobs (for both of us) -Promotions -Co-op internship at TD Williamson -Snowboarding -Christmas books - Hanging out with friends - Game nights -Dota parties -Dota in general -gym memberships -getting fit -healthy meals -lots of pictures -Art Museum -Volleyball league -Sunbeam teacher -Chocolate pies -Moved to a bigger apartment across the street - New wards -House sitting -Wart/cyst burned off -new clothes -paid off Spencer's car -decorations for home -Hockey Game -dance recital -Concrete mixers -lots of ice cream -North Pole Express -Team Cheerleader/most passionate awards -Bonuses -Kneader's homemade French toast -stuffed spaghetti squash -gluten free meals -low blood sugars (like really low) -cuddling in bed/on the couch/on the chair/on the floor/in the car/everywhere-2nd Counselor in Relief Society Presidency -Monarch Game -Oat N Honey bars -Festival of colors -Las Vegas -Disneyland -the beach -The Angel's Game -Sandhollow -ATV's -Small tent, sleeping like we were in a taco -Sushi nights -Whitney Reservoir -Weddings (3 to be exact) of close friends -TD Williamson summer party -Temple nights -Lessons -Death Cab for Cutie concert (and meeting the band) -Mary, Martha and Catherine hike -Family reunion -Putting furniture together -Painting furniture -Cactus plant -birthday parties -Amazon Prime -Raspberry Pi -Minnesota -3M -Tremonton sleep over with married friends -Protein shakes -Loud neighbors - School -Family -Planning -Colorado -sore legs - massages -Super hot room with no AC -Super hot shower -Late rent (once... boo!)-greeting each other with a "Oh Hey there" in a funny voice -Lots of laughter -tears -tests -date nights

We sure have done a lot in the past year of being married. I am so excited to be married to Spencer for time and all eternity. One year down and forever to go! I love you Spence! Thanks for making this year one to remember.





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